His son assaulted a young woman at a frat party at Stanford. The son got a six-month jail sentence for the crime and now his letter to the judge asking for leniency has caused a national outcry, not to mention public outrage.

In his letter to the judge, Dan Turner wrote that “His (Brock’s) life will never be the one he dreamed about and worked so hard to achieve. That (six-month sentence in jail) is a steep price to pay for 20 minutes of acton out of his 20 plus years of life.”

Get the torches and pitchforks out, America.

Let’s see if we understand this. The father is worried that an act that his son committed will have an effect on your son? Really? REALLY? In what world are you living in, Mr. Turner? It appears you’re not living in this one.  Yes, we get the fact that your son got himself into trouble. That’s fine. We get the fact that your son will be behind bars away from his family for six months (which could be less if he conducts himself well in jail) and have to register as a sexual offender for the rest of his life. All of that is fine and dandy.

But what about his victim? What about her needs, wants, hopes and desires? It would appear to some of us that you didn’t think that far ahead. It would appear to me that you didn’t listen to her victim impact statement before your “golden” child was sentence to the six-month stretch in county lockup. The words she spoke fell on your deafened ears and hardened heart. What the hell? Her life is ruined and you’re worried about your child’s legacy?

Your child will be wearing jailhouse orange for the next six months, he’ll probably be cavity searched on an almost daily basis and if the jailer has a brain in his or her head, he’d be in ad seg for his safety. After his sentence is done, he’ll have to register as a sexual offender for the rest of his life, which means that where he can live, work, visit and interaction with people and organizations will be limited.

Wake up and smell the coffee, Mr. Turner. Your son’s victim may not be perfect but she didn’t need to or deserve to be attacked, no matter what some may say. They may say she was flirting wiht him, she may have been drunk or dreseed provocatively. Those are not valid reasons to attack anyone. Sorry. That’s not how it works in the real world. That’s not the Father’s Day gift you want. Your is a rapist in the eyes of some. Loyalty is one thing. Stupidity is another.

Your son’s victim’s life is ruined. She may recover from her physical injuries. It’s the mental scarring that we don’t see and probably will change the way she deals with people, in particular with men. She said your son picked her off like she was a “wounded antelope of the herd, completely alone and vulnerable, physically unable to fend for myself.”

She told him that “you do not get to shrug your shoulders and be confused anymore. You have been convicted of violating me with malicious intent and all you can admit to is consuming alcohol. Do not talk about the sad way your life was upturned because alcohol made you do bad things.”

She described how she had changed since the assault.

“My independence, natural joy, gentleness and steady lifestyle I had been enjoying became distorted beyond recognition. I became closed off, angry, self-deprecating, tired, irritable, empty,” she said.

In the 12-page statement, she said: “While you worry about your shattered reputation, I refrigerated spoons every night so when I woke up, and my eyes were puffy from crying, I would hold the spoons to my eyes to lessen the swelling so that I could see. I showed up an hour late to work every morning, excused myself to cry in the stairwells, I can tell you all the best places in that building to cry where no one can hear you, the pain became so bad that I had to tell my boss I was leaving, I needed time because continuing day to day was not possible. I used my savings to go as far away as I could possibly be.”

After describing in detail how hospital staff documented her injuries, she said: “I stood there examining my body beneath the stream of water and decided, I don’t want my body anymore. I was terrified of it. … I wanted to take off my body like a jacket and leave it at the hospital with everything else.”

She said Turner picked her off like she was a “wounded antelope of the herd, completely alone and vulnerable, physically unable to fend for myself.”

She told Turner that “you do not get to shrug your shoulders and be confused anymore. You have been convicted of violating me with malicious intent, and all you can admit to is consuming alcohol. Do not talk about the sad way your life was upturned because alcohol made you do bad things.”

In an editorial, The San Jose Mercury News called the six-month county jail sentence a “slap on the wrist.”

“Brock Turner’s six-month jail term for sexual assault of an intoxicated, unconscious woman on the Stanford campus last year is a setback for the movement to take campus rape seriously,” the newspaper said. “If Turner’s slap on the wrist sentence is a setback, activists can take some comfort that the jurors at the trial in March saw what happened as a very serious crime.”

Stanford issued a statement Monday, calling it a “horrible incident” but defending how it handled its aftermath, saying it “did everything within its power to assure that justice was served.” Once the Palo Alto, California school learned the identity of the young woman in confidentiality, they investigated and banned Turner from setting foot on campus – as a student or otherwise, the harshest sanction that a university can impose on a student.

Mr. Turner, it would appear that you failed in some way, shape or form to teach your son right from wrong. Brock will sit in a jail cell, then be marked as a sexual predator. Left up to some of us, Brock would be marked like Hester Prynne in “The Scarlet Letter” and shunned like he was Amish. What your son did was nothing short of inexcusable and he should be doing a longer sentence in either Pelican Bay, San Quentin or Corcoran. Six months is almost a vacation. No. Brock’s reputation is shattered, shot to hell. He’ll never swim for the United States and even USA Swimming wants no part of him. That’s the least of his worries. His victim will probably never have her life back completely if at all. Is this the Father’s Day gift you want?

We wouldn’t blame the women of Stanford for going by your house or place of business and picketing. As for the torches and pitchforks? That may work. It may be a waste of good fire and farm tools but it may send a strong message. Wake up, sir. Join the rest of us in the real world, if you dare. Your son is a coward, plain and simple and that’s being kind. We’re sure that his victim had stronger words that can’t be printed. Join us in reality. Wake up and smell the coffee. As Cher told Nicholas Cage in “Moonstruck,” after she slaps him, “Snap out of it!”

That would be GREAT advice.

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